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Episode Summary
In this episode of the Christian Business Growth Podcast, Rev. Lyle talks with collaborative divorce attorney Jill Lowe about how God transformed both her faith and her business after a life changing battle with cancer.
Jill began her legal career in traditional litigation, spending years in high conflict courtrooms handling emotionally charged cases. But after facing cancer and rediscovering her relationship with God, she felt called to approach family law differently. Instead of focusing on conflict, she shifted into collaborative divorce, a process designed to preserve relationships, reduce hostility, and help families move forward with dignity.
Throughout the conversation, Jill shares the practical and spiritual lessons she’s learned in business. She talks about the struggle of self reliance, the importance of waiting on God’s timing, and how reminders like “Pray. Trust. Wait.” help keep her grounded.
The episode also dives into the role of core values in entrepreneurship. Jill explains how faith, family, health, and service guide every decision she makes in business. Rev. Lyle expands on this idea by sharing his own FAIRS framework and discussing how values should become active guiding principles rather than empty corporate statements.
One of the strongest moments in the episode comes when Jill says:
“I am a Christ follower who happens to be an attorney.”
That mindset captures the heart of the conversation. Faith is not something separate from business. It shapes how we lead, serve, communicate, and grow.
This episode is a powerful reminder that God can use painful seasons to redirect our lives toward greater purpose and impact.
💬 Sound Bites From This Episode
🔹 Jill Lowe Quotes
- “Pray. Trust. Wait. In that order.”
- “Purpose in the pain. That’s the way it is.”
- “I am a Christ follower who happens to be an attorney.”
- “If it compromises my faith, family, or health, then it’s not meant for my growth.”
- “There’s conflict in divorce, but there are ways to manage it instead of escalating it.”
- “The goal is to preserve relationships, not destroy them.”
🔹 Rev. Lyle Quotes
- “God sees the whole field while we only see a small portion.”
- “Communication from opposite ends creates a fight in the middle.”
- “Core values shouldn’t sit on paper. They should guide how you live.”
- “Faith leads to impact.”
- “Take some time to write down the 'God moments' so you can remember them in difficult seasons.”
Episode Highlights
Divorce is often seen as a combative and painful process, but what if there was a way to navigate it with compassion and understanding? In this blog post, we explore the transformative insights shared by divorce attorney Jill Lowe, who emphasizes the importance of collaboration over conflict in family law. After experiencing her own health challenges, Jill redirected her career towards a more healing approach to divorce, focusing on preserving relationships and fostering amicable settlements.
About Jill Lowe
Jill Lowe is a collaborative divorce attorney with years of experience in family law. After practicing as a litigation attorney, she transitioned to collaborative law to create a more family-focused and amicable divorce process. Her journey through personal health challenges has shaped her compassionate approach, making her a unique advocate for families in transition.
Understanding Collaborative Divorce
In traditional divorce proceedings, the process can often feel cold and adversarial. Jill explains that the **collaborative divorce process** is designed to foster communication and cooperation between parties.
- Goal-Oriented: Unlike conventional litigation, where attorneys often focus on positions, collaborative divorce emphasizes the goals and interests of all involved. This shift promotes understanding and a sense of partnership.
- Confidential and Out of Court: This process is entirely confidential and takes place outside the courtroom, which reduces the stress and anxiety that often accompanies divorce proceedings.
- Focus on Healing: Jill highlights that this approach is centered around healing, not just legal settlements. By prioritizing the emotional well-being of families, collaborative divorce allows for a more personalized experience that respects the complexities of family dynamics.
The Role of Communication in Divorce
Effective communication is crucial during the divorce process. Jill emphasizes that when parties communicate openly, it minimizes conflict and creates a space for healing.
- Peacemaking: As Jill points out, the Bible highlights the importance of being peacemakers, especially during conflicts like divorce. This idea resonates with her approach to family law, where managing conflict rather than escalating it is essential.
- Healing Relationships: By adopting a collaborative approach, couples can focus on preserving their relationships, especially when children are involved. This mindset can lead to healthier co-parenting dynamics post-divorce.
Trusting God in the Process
For Jill, her faith plays a significant role in her practice. She believes that relying on God is vital, especially in challenging times.
- Dependence on God: Jill shares her personal mantra: "pray, trust, wait." This reflects her journey of learning to depend on God for guidance and provision in her practice. She encourages others to trust that God has a plan, even when the path is unclear.
- Reflecting on Past Experiences: Jill often reflects on her past experiences, including her battle with cancer, to find strength and reassurance in her current challenges. She emphasizes the importance of remembering how God has worked in one’s life, providing hope for the future.
Key Takeaways
1. Collaborative Divorce: Focuses on amicable settlements and preserving relationships.
2. Effective Communication: Key to reducing conflict and fostering a healing environment.
3. Faith and Dependence on God: Essential for navigating challenging circumstances with grace and patience.
Wrapping up:
Divorce doesn’t have to be a destructive process. By embracing the principles of collaborative divorce, individuals can navigate this challenging time with compassion and respect. Whether you’re facing divorce or supporting someone who is, remember that there are options available that prioritize emotional well-being and healing.
📝 Full transcript here
Rev. Lyle:
Hello and welcome to the Christian Business Growth Podcast. I'm here with Jill Lowe. She's an attorney, she's a divorce attorney, but she's a collaborative attorney. So we're going to hear a lot more about that and everything. But first, Jill, tell us your story. How did God get you into business?
Jill Lowe:
Yeah. So it's a great question. Originally I started as a litigation attorney doing litigation work. It was a little high conflict. I was in and out of the courtroom. It was a little destructive. I did that for about 10 years and then I experienced my own health issues. I ended up having cancer.
In that journey, I rediscovered my faith, depended upon God, learned more about Jesus, accepted Jesus into my own heart, and started to follow Him and read the Bible and turn away from my old ways.
Then I took some time off after recovering from the cancer surgeries and treatments. I kind of asked God, “What is my purpose? What am I doing? What do You have planned for me?” because I had just gone through years of recovery.
He talked to me, nudged me, and pushed me back into doing family law work and divorce work. But I needed to do it a different way.
So I shifted and changed to doing collaborative divorce work instead of litigation work where it's more family focused and amicable. It's out of court. It's a much more relaxed atmosphere and the end result is focused on settlement and preserving relationships.
I just felt like that was more aligned with my new perspective and how I was going to live my new life.
Rev. Lyle:
Explain to someone who doesn't understand what the collaborative process is versus just a divorce, because it's still a process of divorce probably, right?
Jill Lowe:
Yeah, it's still a process of divorce. But in the collaborative process, the goal is to settle and the goal is to preserve relationships. It's all confidential. It's out of court. We focus on goals and interests, not positions.
The attorneys are working together as a team and we're all collaborating and working through settlement options that will hopefully meet everybody's goals and also help the children and the families, whether they have grandchildren or adopted children.
It’s a more healing approach than litigation. Litigation can be a little cold and impersonal. This is much more personalized to the family.
Rev. Lyle:
I love that you said healing because divorce in general is combative in the way people look at it and the way people act in it.
You and I were talking before about communication. Communication is the key. When two people are communicating from opposite ends, there’s just a fight in the middle. You're separating that fight and bringing clarity in the center. There’s a healing in that process, which I think is very biblical.
We won’t go into the divorce factor of Christianity necessarily. Hopefully no one has to get divorced, but we know there are circumstances in our world where sometimes it happens and it's sad.
But I’m glad there’s somebody who's a Christian who can pray for those people and be on their side. I’m glad you're doing that. You're putting yourself in a position to help.
Jill Lowe:
Yes. And the Bible talks about being peacemakers as well.
There’s naturally going to be conflict in a divorce process because you’re dealing with emotional issues. The breakdown of a marriage, time with children, finances. It’s highly emotional.
There’s conflict, but there are ways to manage it instead of escalating it.
Rev. Lyle:
That makes sense. So what is God currently doing in your business?
Jill Lowe:
A lot of things. God is providing opportunities to spread the word about the collaborative process so that people who unfortunately find themselves in that situation know there’s another option out there.
God is also connecting people and showing me how much I have to depend upon Him for provision.
Rev. Lyle:
That’s good. Could you tell us more about that?
I know lawyers tend to want to do everything themselves. I have lawyer clients and they always tell me, “Lyle, I hate that I have to listen to you because you know what you're talking about.”
What are some things where you’ve had to rely on God instead of yourself?
Jill Lowe:
It’s really hard to release and not be self reliant.
A lot of times I can be very impatient. I have reminders all over my house that say, “Pray. Trust. Wait.” In that order.
I constantly have to remind myself to take things to God and pray about them. But then I have to trust Him. Trust that He’s going to make a way, even if it’s not the way I want it to be.
And then I have to wait.
There’s a lot of temptation to take things into my own hands and rely on myself. But I have to realize that’s not how we were designed.
So I depend upon Him to provide and He does. Sometimes it’s quickly, sometimes it takes time, and sometimes it looks different than what I prayed for. But He always shows up.
Rev. Lyle:
Thanks for sharing that because a lot of people don’t realize God is like this coach. He sees the whole field and we only see a small portion.
Even your transition from litigation to finding your faith and moving into a peacemaking process instead of a combative process is unique. It’s amazing to see how God developed you through that.
Jill Lowe:
Yeah. Sometimes I look back and remind myself of what He did for me then and what He’s going to do for me now.
Rev. Lyle:
Do you journal those things?
Jill Lowe:
I do. I keep notes in my phone. Sometimes those moments are so significant that they stay in your memory forever.
Rev. Lyle:
There’s a John Acuff process where he talks about keeping a list of awesome moments. I’d call them God moments.
Write down those moments where God came through in a unique way so when you hit a low point, you can go back and remember.
It sounds like cancer was a hard season, but God used it for purpose.
Jill Lowe:
Yep. Purpose in the pain. That’s the way it is.
Rev. Lyle:
That’s a great phrase.
So let’s shift into business growth. What are some business growth tips you’d give to someone wanting to grow their business?
Jill Lowe:
In the last several years, I’ve redeveloped and rebranded myself and my business.
One of the biggest things is having core values and core principles that you build on and stay true to.
When you encounter situations that compromise those values, that’s when you know you need to say no.
I keep my priorities in the forefront: my faith, my family, and my health.
If anything compromises those, then I know it’s not meant for my growth or my business growth.
It’s tempting to compromise sometimes, but I keep going back to my principles, values, and priorities. If they don’t align, I know it’s not for me.
If I stay true to my values, keep prayer in the forefront, and stay aligned, success will come. It might take time, but it will come.
Rev. Lyle:
Do you keep those values visible?
Jill Lowe:
Yeah. I put sticky notes around my desk and office. I also keep scripture and motivational reminders around me to stay focused.
Rev. Lyle:
Would you mind sharing one of your core values?
Jill Lowe:
Service.
I’m serving God, families, couples, and the process itself. I’m trying to be a peacemaker.
If I’m in a situation that doesn’t align with that, I feel that internal tug and know I need to reevaluate or shift.
Rev. Lyle:
And what’s another one?
Jill Lowe:
My faith.
I keep this quote near me: “I am a Christ follower who happens to be blank.”
For me, I am a Christ follower who happens to be an attorney.
There’s a way to blend your profession with your faith and your values.
That doesn’t mean I treat clients differently based on religion. It means my approach as an attorney is shaped by my faith and values.
Rev. Lyle:
Core values often become corporate slogans people never live out. But when you keep them in front of you, they become reminders of who God created you to be.
Let me share a few of mine:
Faith leads to impact.
Action leads to growth.
Integrity leads to stewardship.
Responsibility leads to ownership.
Those guide how I lead and work with others.
So how does the collaborative process actually work with other attorneys?
Jill Lowe:
In Texas, each party has their own collaborative attorney.
Once both parties hire attorneys, we confirm we’re handling it collaboratively and begin onboarding.
There’s a participation agreement outlining roles, responsibilities, and confidentiality.
The process is based on transparency. Everyone shares information honestly.
Sometimes we bring in neutral professionals like mental health facilitators or financial professionals to help collect information and guide conversations.
Then we begin meetings, discuss goals, gather financial information, and work through settlement options until we land on one that works for everyone.
Rev. Lyle:
As we wrap up, what’s one word of wisdom you’d leave us with? And how can people connect with you?
Jill Lowe:
Don’t wait.
If you want to make a change, start today. It’s never too late.
You can connect with us at gbafamilylaw.com.
My Instagram is LoeweCollaborative.
And my LinkedIn is Jill Loewe.
Rev. Lyle:
Great. Thanks for sharing your story today.
Jill Lowe:
Thank you for having me.